3. Our Wills
Updated: Apr 24, 2020
Today I attempt to write My Last Will & Testament using a company called LawDepot. It's online-based and I can pick from multiple choices and fill in the blanks to generate it. I'll be spending most of the day reading up on it, so that I don't miss anything out. I also have "My Real Testament" to do for somebody else and I'm also generating a Q and A list to use going forward.
Following the feedback of a valued member-friend I edited the below (please bear in mind that other minor changes have been made since, but aren't included below):
1. I completely removed the reference to a post-religious society within the Welcome Post. Having looked into it it appears that religion collectively is growing, so having thought more deeply about it I've listed a couple of reasons why I think people are a little lost nowadays. Here's the new version:
It's 2019 and regardless of our own beliefs there's a lot going on right now in our respective countries and societies. I feel that some people are losing grip on what life is really about and just how precious it is. It could be because I'm generally surrounded by working families feeling the effects of a higher cost of living whilst not getting a pay increase to match it. It could also be due to our ever-growing connection to social media where we can't deny that we're constantly brainwashed by advertisements. It's also sad to see so many dreams of fame and fortune being pursued by so many people, especially when their chance of succeeding could be extremely low. The saddest cases are where fame and fortune are sought but the person isn't sure how they'll achieve it. Regardless of the reasons for losing grip on life I hope to do my bit to help.
2. The same member-friend willed for a caveat to be added in that words cannot replace physical memories.
I can't say this any more strongly: even this "real" testament will not compare to the actual memories of our parents. It should help of course, hopefully providing warmth and guidance, but it's in no way comparable - however, it is hoped that any anecdotes listed in the "real" testament trigger actual memories, which I would consider to be a powerful feature.
3. In My Real Testament I simply added a bit about saying "Sorry!" within the "Learn from your mistakes" section, as I feel that the ability so say "Sorry" is important and helps people to move on, together:
Where you may have hurt somebody you should genuinely be and say "Sorry!", as it helps them to heal and can prevent or limit the damage to any bond that you may have with them.
4. Another thing that I noted when discussing the website with the member-friend above was a poem from 1927 by Max Ehrmann. I liked Desiderata that much that I've added it to the bottom of My Real Testament for my boys to read. Here it is:
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
5. I've simply started numbering the blog posts so that the order is clear. This is mainly in case new members wish to read everything from the beginning.
That's it! I'm happy with the changes made and I'm now going to focus on My Last Will & Testament using LawDepot, as well as making a start on other people's "My Real Testament". If they permit me to I'll include a copy in the next blog post.
Read the next blog post here: 4. The 'C' Word.